Why Divorce is Rarely the Answer

If getting a divorce wouldn’t make you any happier than you currently are would you get divorced? For most people I think you’ll find the answer is no.

What if I were to tell you that research has shown that a majority of divorced couples would honestly say that they are no happier divorced than they were married or that they are just as unhappy in their current marriage as they were in their last. Would you still get a divorce?

Before you take such a final step as divorce just take a moment to read the main findings of a study released in 2002 (Does Divorce Make People Happy (full report downloadable in PDF format from the American Values website (AmericanValues.Org)):

• On average unhappily married couple who divorced or separated were no happier than unhappily married couples who stayed married. Even unhappily married couples who had divorced and remarried were, on average, no happier.
• Divorce did not reduce symptoms of depression or increase self-esteem (on average).
• Three out of four unhappily married adults were married to someone who was happy with the marriage.
• Two out of three unhappily married couples who avoided divorce or separation ended up happily married five years later. Just one in five unhappily married adults who had divorced or separated had happily married in the same period of time.

You must admit the findings of the report do make you think! And as attractive as divorce might look wouldn’t it be better if you could find a way to rebuild and save your marriage?

What if I told you that you don’t even need to go to a marriage counsellor, that you can get all the help you need right here, on line, at a minimal cost would you be interested?

I can’t promise that your marriage will be the same as it was before and to be quite frank a return to how it used to be isn’t the answer. Same marriage same life and back to the divorce courts in a few months or years time!

But a better marriage is surely worth fighting for.

Think about the emotional stress, the financial stress, the impact on your children is it really worth it if you won’t be any happier? And if you could be happy in your current marriage in 5 years time isn’t it worth the effort to try and save your marriage?

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