Save your Marriage, Rescue Remedy for Financial Problems in a Marriage

With personal / family debt levels continually rising the pressure on marriages in continually increasing with nearly half of married couples arguing over financial issues, which makes financial problems in a marriage one of the main common marriage problems.

As the saying goes ‘money is what makes the world go round’ and not being able to spend money on the things you want to spend it on significantly increases the levels of stress in a relationship.

Marriage is particularly hard and financial problems more of an issue when couples:

·         first get together after having it easy living at home,

·         have only had to think about number one in the past,

·         have a new baby to consider,

·         have been used to good incomes and are then hit by hard times or

·         have just let their finances get out of control.

Having enough money to spend is important and it is so easy for marriage finances to get out of control. I know so many people who just spend and spend, leave nothing for a rainy day and get deeper and deeper into debt. People who have financial problems often look at me and wonder why I don’t have any financial issues and why my marriage works so well.

Perhaps it's easier for us, we are lucky enough to both have similar financial opinions, we never spend more than what we earn and never spend all the money we have. One of the easiest ways to avoid financial problems in a marriage is to always keep a little back, it avoids all the stress when that unexpected bill comes in!

When money is short stress levels rise and with increased stress levels comes the constant bickering, the blame culture and other relationship issues start to arise. Financial problems in a marriage just compound marital problems and small things that were never previously an issue start to come to a head.

When husband and wife do not have the same opinions as far as the family finances are concerned, financial problems in a marriage become a far greater issue. Partners need to understand that personal finances need to be managed, expenditure planned and bills met even in harder times. They need to learn to focus on the real issue at hand, which is money, and not start picking at other aspects of the marriage which wouldn’t have previously been a problem.

I’m not saying it’s easy, trying to get your spouse to curb their spending habits is difficult especially when you can’t see light at the end of the tunnel but, if you don’t take control of your finances the problem will just escalate and escalate until it is totally out of control.

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