Signs of Infidelity
It’s not always obvious when your partner is cheating on you, some signs of
infidelity are just very subtle changes in your partner’s behaviour. Everyone is different and how one person handles such a
delicate situation can be completely different to another. A successful gambler for example could probably cover their tracks far easier than a
person who is normally far more open and transparent in their behaviour.
Signs of infidelity can differ greatly from one relationship to another but one common thread is that something, no matter how small or how subtle, will have changed.
If your partner has suddenly
changed, maybe become more remote or less intimate and you have that funny feeling that something isn’t quite right then you might want to
look for some obvious signs that your spouse is cheating on you.
Perhaps mutual friends have
started acting differently towards you, less friendly, can’t look you in the eye, avoid coming round or no longer want to discuss family
issues. If so raise the question, as if there is something wrong, just do a little digging
without letting on that you have your suspicions and just see how uncomfortable they become.
If your partner is spending
more and more time away from home just start asking questions, nothing obvious but show a keen interest in how their day has been and what
they have been doing. A cheating spouse will find
it more and more difficult to be involved in such a conversation.
Other signs of infidelity could be:
· A sudden urge to get fit, always at the gym but
wants to do it on their own.
· Longer working hours, unexplained changes in
working patterns or an increase in the number of nights away from home.
· A new cell phone that you don’t know about or an
reluctance you let you near their existing phone. Becomes possessive about phone calls, deletes messages or starts using nick names in
their phone directory.
· A need to get to the mail first or an sudden
eagerness to answer the phone.
· Your partner starts leaving the room when they are
on the phone.
· Suddenly takes and interest in new clothes or a
heightened interest in their day to day appearance.
· Becomes defensive, avoids conversation or appears
uncomfortable when asked about their day or where they have been.
· Acquires an unusual interest or knowledge about
local pubs, hotels or attractions.
· Stops wearing a special / symbolic item of
jewellery or even their wedding ring.
· Finds any excuse to leave the room or the
· Stops going to bed when you do, avoids initimate
moments, looses interest in sex or starts spending long hours at the computer.
· An increase in the amount of cash withdrawn from
your joint account, a new bank account or an unexplained shortage of money.
· Weird phone calls whereby the caller keeps hanging
up but it only happens to you.
Some of the more transparent
signs of infidelity are such things as the appearance of little gifts that weren’t purchased by yourself or your partner, regularly smells
of a perfume or aftershave that isn’t yours. A cheating spouse may carry condoms when you don’t use them as a couple or start having
showers as soon as they arrive home.
The list is endless with many
signs of infidelity being subtle in nature and also an indication of
something totally different such as stress, depression, boredom or early signs of illness. If
you believe your partner is having an affair don’t just jump in with guns blazing, do your homework, confirm your suspicions 100% before
doing something you might regret and possibly destroying your marriage.
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