Infidelity, Childs Play or so you
Thought!
Common Marriage Problem
Infidelity is a
funny little thing that come and bite you in the bum when you
least expect it. Affairs might be fun at the time but infidelity is one of
those common marriage
problems that
isn't worth destroying your marriage for.
I often liken affairs to an addiction
whereby how ever much you tell yourself you
shouldn’t be doing something you feel compelled to do the opposite.
And of course, while it’s sitting there for you on a plate who are
you to say no. However, infidelity is like any other
addiction, there comes a time when
you realise that this isn’t what life is all about and decide to
let go. Unfortunately, all too often, as with many
common marriage
problems the realisation comes
too late!! Just remember, if you want to play such a dangerous
game as adultery someone is always going to get
hurt.
I personally believe that you shouldn’t sleep with
someone while you are sleeping in the marital bed. Infidelity can
be really cruel on the cheated partner, have you ever thought how
you would feel if you knew your partner was behaving the same as
you?
Some people do have open relationships and it does
work but ground rule number one has to be that your partner is
aware and is happy with the situation.
If you are the one commiting adultery now is
the time to ask yourself is infidelity really worth it. Is
your life that bad that you need to shit on your spouse from such a
great height? Do you love the person you are having an affair with
and if so do you love them enough to destroy the lives of those
around you. Is the new relationship strong enough to last and is it
truly worth the
infidelity?
A slight interlude – I had a mare once who, fell in
love with a gelding in another field. She wasn’t really allowed to
see this horse because where they were kept most of the owners
preferred their horses to be in separate paddocks. This didn’t make
a difference to my mare who, would jump out of her paddock into the
next as soon as you put her back in her field (where she had
several companions). After a month of messing around, jumping 7ft
high hedges and a series of five bar gates just to get to the one
she loved she got evicted for bad behaviour. I took her to another
yard where she immediately flirted with all the guys and totally
forgot the horse that she had got herself (and her mate) evicted
over.
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