Should Infidelity be Forgiven?

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It is fair to say that infidelity is cruel, very cruel and something that is hard to forgive but it’s often the way society perceives infidelity which forces the question ‘is it right to forgive’.

There is no right or wrong approach where infidelity is concerned. Infidelity is definitely one of the hardest marriage problems that couples have to cope with and I believe most survivors of infidelity will agree that there is no right answer.

Unless you are in the situation and know the circumstance you can’t possibly know what is right. For some marriages forgiving infidelity is the correct approach while for others it’s the start of a very rocky road.

I believe there are many factors to consider, infidelity is not a cut and dry case, there are so many reasons, so many different situations and no two marriages are the same. It doesn’t really matter what society thinks, what I think or what anyone else thinks, do you believe that forgiving infidelity is something you can do and want to do then you have your answer.

Ask yourself this:

• Do you still love your spouse?
• Do you believe that your love is strong enough to survive infidelity?
• Is the affair over? Is it likely to happen again?
• Do you believe that you can learn to trust your spouse again?
• What were the circumstances surrounding the infidelity? Bearing in mind we are all human can you perhaps partly understand how it happened? Do you believe that between you, you can prevent the situation from occurring again?
• Did you have marriage problems before the affair? Are you prepared to try and sort them out?
• Do you believe the infidelity was a one off? If not how are you going to feel when it happens again?
• Could you ever be happy if you were to split up?
• What do you want to do?

If you are still in shock and infidelity is still a raw wound don’t make your decision now. Give yourself time to recover, don’t make a decision until you are in a position where you can think rationally. When you feel you are able, ask all the questions you need to, try and understand what happened and why it happened and then, only then are you in any kind of position to be able to make a decision.  

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