Surviving Infidelity

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If your marriage is to survive infidelity the cheated spouse must be prepared to forgive and learn to trust their partner again. To survive infidelity, and not just exist in a loveless marriage, you have to be prepared to move on, maybe not forget but certainly forgive the past and look towards a new and more fulfilling relationship in the future.

Surviving infidelity doesn’t just mean staying together. If you stay together but nothing changes the likelihood is that it will just happen again. You have to be prepared to discuss what happened, understand why it happened and work together to fix what was missing in your marriage.

What we all need to understand is that we all make mistakes, perhaps some of us make worse mistakes than others and certainly infidelity is high on the list of bad mistakes. You can get through it though, if you want to and if you are prepared to lay aside blame and work at rebuilding your relationship.
 
Making the choice to forgive infidelity is certainly a hard one, probably the most difficult element of surviving infidelity. Once the decision has been made you can start to move on.

Although no two marriages are the same and the path taken to rebuild a relationship is unique to a marriage the major steps to surviving infidelity are:

1. Acceptance that there was an affair and nothing can be done to change it.
2. Understanding that maybe there was something wrong with your relationship before the affair.
3. Learning to communicate.
4. Being prepared to listen, discuss and understand the reasons for the af
5. fair.
6. Both spouses being fully committed to saving the marriage.
7. Being prepared to forgive the infidelity and work at rebuilding the trust in the marriage.
8. The cheating spouse accepting that it will take time to rebuild the trust and being prepared to demonstrate their commitment to the marriage.
9. Developing common interests

It is hard to survive infidelity and making the decision to forgive an affair and try and save your marriage is a hard one but most of us do learn from our mistakes and many relationships are stronger after infidelity.

If you truly can’t forgive infidelity and I am not saying condone it but forgive it then you don’t have a basis from which you can rebuild your marriage. 

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